troy weiss

so sorry for your loss. and x2 everything you said.

Debkorb:

I don't know who you are.......I've never met you.....but from your message I only know what kind of person you are.....thank you for sharing your thoughts.....

My sincerest condolences.....

F.I.

Thanks for the message. Troy and i are ousted from the family. I live in Minnesota. I reached out to our dad not sure he will return my call. I'm trying to figure out what is going on....buriel ect. Anyone that has info please call me 6126180520

Troy will be missed - he shared some of his pain at being the "black sheep", but just as you wrote, he never did seem to be able to move on and shake off that empty feeling.
Many of us felt some similarities with some of his feelings and I think that is why he touched so many people. He was certainly one who will not be easily forgotten - warts and all.
PS Life is pretty warty, no matter how hard we all try to look perfect.
Condolences

debkorb,

I simply registered on here because I am relocating in December. I am not there yet and am therefore not an islander yet. I just wanted to let you know that I have been keeping up with message boards regularly and the other post on your brother caught my eye and I read all the comments. I obviously didn't know him or you, but I did share the horror of addiction (all drugs, but mainly meth, alcohol and coke) from 1998 to 2008. I do not regret my past because it has made me the person I am today. Like you said, we have to learn to accept certain things and move on. I've met many people like your brother who had a hard time letting go. I wanted you to know that the whole story has touched me and I wish you all the necessary comfort through this tough time and I wish your brother all the best on this new journey that he will be taking without the rest of us. Maybe that is where he will have the realizations he needed to give him the peace of mind he couldn't find here with us.

My sincerest condolences.

Raj H.

debkorb,
So sorry about Troy, I sent you a private message.
I hope it helps.

Thanks for your kind words...

Troy had a drinking problem before he left for the island. He found crack on the island and it consumed his life. I understand addiction and it runs through my family. The best thing I ever did for myself is go to al anon and begin my 12 program work. I wish that troy would have found it is this life, but recovery is something he was not ready for in this life. It's the painful death that breaks my heart. Please please please if you are moving to the island stay strong in your recovery. Crack is rampant on the island. The island is beautiful! It's a great slow paced life.nd

So sorry for your loss, debkorb.

Your advice about being strong in your recovery, is good advice.

There ARE programs on the islamds to help you with addictions. Just open the phone book or it's in the newspaper. You have to seek the help/advice, no one is going to come looking for you. That is unless you are arrested and mandated by the court to go counseling sessions - usually for drunk driving.

If you do have addiction problems and contemplating on moving to the islands, NOT a good idea.

Troy, rest in peace!

Yes, geographic changes don't work.

Your demons will follow you everywhere. Whether you move from from the West Coast to the East Coast.
Or moving to the USVI, which can be someones paradise, purgatory, or hell.

Thanks for your kind words...

Troy had a drinking problem before he left for the island. He found crack on the island and it consumed his life. I understand addiction and it runs through my family. The best thing I ever did for myself is go to al anon and begin my 12 program work. I wish that troy would have found it is this life, but recovery is something he was not ready for in this life. It's the painful death that breaks my heart. Please please please if you are moving to the island stay strong in your recovery. Crack is rampant on the island. The island is beautiful! It's a great slow paced life.nd

Some people are just not ready for recovery and may never be. The one thing I've learned is that we can't force in on the ones we love or care about. We just have to be there for them and hope they come around. But as you said, it is the horrible manner in which he was taken away that is hardest. May your Higher Power comfort you and Troy's soul at this time.

Thanks for the advice about the island. I've lived in the Caribbean before (Dominican Republic) and I've visited other islands in the area and it just seems that crack and/or cocaine is the only way that some people want to have a good time. I guess it is because all these islands are directly in the line of delivery of cocaine to the Miami and other coastal States. I will keep my guard up, and I'm sure the Island will be an amazing high all on its own.

"Yes, geographic changes don't work."
"Your demons will follow you everywhere."

That's mostly true, but if you're trying to get away from bad habits, or to get away from people with bad habits, then a geographic change can help, as long as you shun those habits and those types of people at the new location. But if you seek out those habits and people again, or you don't walk away when they find you, you'll be right back into it.

Brian Tracy (a self-help author) says to look at the 6 people that are closest to you in your life. That's your future. If you don't like that future, then find other people to be close to.

Don't want to argue with you on this thread Bob but, it's a known fact, you can't run away from something that is inside.Has to be dealt with internally.
May he rest in peace.

My brother moved down there and kicked a 20+ year meth habit. He was a friend of Troy's. It can be done.

Condolences

In his short life he touched many hearts and souls. And though he is no longer with us in body, his spirit will never die!
May those he left behind find comfort.
RIP TRW, you will be missed.