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TRW and Tami, you are both being pathetic and needy--get over your selves, grow up and stop airing your dirty laundry on a public forum.

Tami you are a mother and grandmother for heaven sake, get some self respect.

trw and tami are among friends here (for the most part, i guess)... they are remarkably brave and resilient, and well aware of what they are doing.

Actually Anita, HBIC is correct on my account. I went to daughters baby shower/going away party. Drank a few beer while emotional. Big no no for me. Then I came home and read the message board read the I hate you thing. Felt sorry for myself, publicly whined, cried and totally embarrassed myself. I would ask islander to remove my posts but is a good lesson not to drink and post and quit trying to be mother to someone who never asked me to mother them. No matter how old I get I am still trying to grow up. In any case I am taking a break from this message board and focus on what is really important right now which is raising my son and supporting my husband who is desperately trying to save his sister. I kept putting my head in the sand, which for me is this message board, so I didn't have to deal with his grief.

You are all a great bunch of people, so interesting.

Happy Labor Day

well dougtamjj,

i see where you know where you feel that you have erred. but, when you are among friends, you are free to do so. even if it was time for you to "snap out of it", friends would be there for you when it was your time. perhaps that makes hbic a friend to you... but you are among friends here, and you have revealed a lot more in happier posts.

tammy HBIC is not correct on any counts

Here's the deal. We can all fall into a funk occaisionally, an unavoidable condition of being on the green side of the grass. it hit two of our friends at the same time. The tone of the forum has become somewhat morose lately, maybe we are having the end of summer blues or personal issues. I just can't find words to respond to the crime topics but I will say, my heart goes out to all the victims. I find I need to take a vacation from paradise at least evrey couple of years. It makes me realize that as F*$ed up as it is with the crime and the all right additude it is still where I choose to be. I usually throw my pity party in the spring unless I'm provoked, All will be invited. I've met several people on the forum and have not been disappointed. As twisted as it seems at times we are a community, even with all our differences.
Trw think about a vacation or something to jar you loose. Tami, my kids are all over the world so I fell your pain. In a few weeks I'll finally get to meet my almost 6 month old grandson. I wish we were all together but my paradise isn't theirs.
We are a community, we care about one another, we all share an island, forgive our excesses and faults as you would any friend. one love

Before you go to bed go get some of the waning moon shine in your face.

you know i don't understand the whole suicide thing, it really confuses me, as bad as my life is at times i could never imagine taking it and so i don't know if it's a brave thing or a cowards way out, we've had so many suicides this summer and i wonder if i 'm missing something,do they know something i don't, i mean no disrespect but i'm really confused right now, why would you do that, is life that bad, how could you do that to the people that love you

trw,

sometimes suicide is almost like an act of violence, especially when it's very graphic or timed for worst effect, as in "see what you made me do?"... we all know that anger passes, but i think that the person who does this type of suicide is boiling in the anger and does the deed in the very heat of it.

then i think there are those who just want the pain to stop. they are so psychically and emotionally tired, and their brains have run out of the chemicals that help us feel hope. this could be a chronic situation, or it could be acute. no matter what, if the person feels that no matter what they do, it will do no good, they just step off.

i have wanted to do this, although it was a very, very long time ago. what stopped me was thinking that the two people whom i loved the most, would have been devastated that i did not ask them to help. so i did not do it. only happened the once.

anita you truly are a good person but i'm going fo bed, my god and my ancestors are strangly silent right now, they normally yap at me all day long, but right now, nothing, i need sleep this is about day 3 without,i'm so tired i can barely hold my head up buti know the minute i lay down i'll be wide awake again

The thing with suicide is that's it's final. Like a car going over a cliff-- no matter how hard you're pushing that brake pedal and screaming NO--- it's done. And with life, you never know what may be just around the corner-- maybe something life changing that you'd never have wanted to miss. You can say something that you don't mean, apologize for it the next day and go on about your life -- but snuff yourself out and that's the VERY last thing you'll ever do. And who knows what's just around your corner? *-)

People who kill themselves don't care what's around the corner, they just want some peace, and can't fathom any other means of getting it.

its a deep dark place of no hope and worthlessness............the idea of no more pain inviting
been there

It's a beautiful sunny morning in St. Croix! I've been gone a couple of months and came home just in time for all the rain and gloomy days. What a great day to wake up in STX today!!

Yes it IS a beautiful day . . . I believe the beach is calling my name so I plan to listen as soon as hubby gets backs from his scooter ride. Lunch at the beach sounds like a perfect plan to me

The sugar birds are practically screaming this morning . . . what's up with that? The hummingbird feeder is full of fresh juice they should be happy.

Hubby fixing the plumbing again yesterday so at the present moment everything in the house is working fine . . . knock on wood!

Have a great Tuesday everyone!

Oh man! Just reading these last two posts have put me in an island frame of mind! Hubby's been trying to convince me to take a quick trip down in Oct for a couple of weeks, and as much as that's tempting me(torturing me really), I know that if we'll just wait until next spring we can stay a whole month!!! A month on the island is sooooo relaxing and you really get back on island time, you know? If only the economy would cooperate we could retire and spend half our year down there... It makes me sick. Sometimes I wish my family had never moved down there when I was a teen because I caught 'the bug' and can't shake it! St Croix is always calling... I know you who have lived there and had to leave know what I'm talking about.

Anyway-- have fun today SunorSki! (and have a drink for us land locked island lovers living vicariously through you right now:D)

Paula

hey would you people help me out with this one i got a reply from the admissions director at uom crookston, we need to help her so she can help these young men adjust. no matter what you think of me i think this is a good thing for us as a group to do.
From:
"Amber Evans-Dailey"
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"'troy weise'"

Greetings Troy,

Thank you so much for your concern for these young men. I am also concerned. I am not sure how well they are adjusting to Crookston MN. They don’t say much (to me anyway). I would also like them to have a very positive experience here but I am not sure what I can do to help them. Any suggestions?

Thanks

Amber Evans-Dailey

Director of Admissions and Enrollment Management

University of Minnesota, Crookston

Like what? Mailing them a week's worth of the Avis at a time might be something they like.

oh trade i don't know, the way i see it, these kids are survivors simply for the fact they made it through the public school system down here they deserve our support, i grew up in rural minnesota and north dakota, i know what people are going to think when they see a group of young black men coming into town as a group, i'd rather that not happen, hell i hung out with the mexicans and i saw and remembered the looks we got when we'd go into a store, nowi'm saying it's not all like that crookston is a university town after all and grand forks which is 30 miles away has the air force base, but a few emails to the director would show that at least we care,lol i'm assuming we do anyway, i do

and trade what the hell am i supposed to do with this one, lol the ex has been hiding in his room since i got home at 2:30 smoking crack and watching porn, lol not being dramatic at all just wondering if i should do anything, i went to work at 5am so who knows how long he's been barricaded intelluctually i know there's nothing i can do except watch him die , i'd rather that not happen because he does pay the mortgage so he is good for something

i guess after the "faux" uproar i caused i need to clarify a few things, tam and antique i don't hate you personnaly it's your politics i hate, how 2 people i like can turn into rabid republicans is beyond me, the one hates gay people and the other hates human rights, i'll never understand the attitude,nor will i accept it, the true judge of a goverment is how that goverment treats it's poorest least unfortunate citizens

Whose name is the house in? If it's in yours, kick him out if he doesn't do anything to shape up. Just be prepared to stand firm on any ultimatums you give.

If it's in his name, move out after telling him what he has to do if he wants you to stay. If he's that deep into crack it probably won't work, sadly. I'm not big into treatment centers for drunks but crack's a whole other thing. A friend used to be flown by Eric Clapton to give talks at his treatment center in Antigua. Try contacting them. I doubt he can get off it without medical attention. I hate, loathe & despise drugs. This crap is so much worse than booze ever could be. And booze isn't all that good if you have a predisposition to it but I've never heard of a social crack user or a junkie who just shoots up on special occasions.

As for the kids in MN, maybe sending local treats like care packages along with the Avis would at least let them know people are routing for them. Know a reporter on the Avis? See if he/she will write a story about them & then send them the paper. That will also be an incentive to keep on trying & if they make it through this year, they'll probably finish.

http://crossroadsantigua.org/

trade i gave him half the house back on 05, it was the right thing to do because i was wandering the stastes at the time and he needed to be protected in case i got run over by a bus, i love him but i'm more concerned by the students at this time, just send an email for christs sake

trw, ever considered calling crimestoppers tips # and reporting tim's supplier/s? While you are accepting crack rocks in your house, I dread the day it comes to mine, possibly in a school backpack. The same suppliers that are feeding your man, are looking for other victim to hook. Turn 'em in to the law and get some crack off OUR streets and outta OUR neighborhoods. Then if Tim won't stop using, call the law on him. A detox in Golden Grove would surely open his eyes!

I heard it again on local radio, by a local female reggae artist..........

"Bun Fya pon the Crack Seller!!!"

aqua i would never do that to him, never, and lol suppliers how many can you count, how many times have i bitched about all the dealers on company street, dealing is a requirement down here if you're a young guy