Single Life

Have you ever been to St.Croix? I would suggest a visit before making such a decision. And then you might want to consider what singles life might be on St. Thomas or St.John.

I plan on visiting the island very soon. There is a job option available and the thought came up. I have read alot of the posts on this board and it is very helpful in making a decision to simply visit first. I am aware of the moving aspect to the island and the pros and cons of my decision making. I am glad to see that there are people there that would like to help out others.

I can tell you that the folks on this board and folks that I've met in person have been more than eager to help out and have gratefully eased and smoothed many of my adjustments to this place. I love living here, of course, but it does take adjustments.

I'm glad you've been doing your homework and planning a visit - depending on how active a single you are, and the types of active that you are, might give you a heads up on the island of your choice, if you have such an option.

You mentioned a job option - is it on a specific island? Without knowing your lifestyle I would suggest for singles that St.Thomas would be my first choice, St.John second and St.Croix third.

The job option would be on St. Croix. Any other help would be appreciated.

Hmmmmmmmmmmmm, as I noted, not my first choice. Perhaps folks on St.Croix will offer a different perspective.

What kind of business are you in? How old?

If you're single and hanging out with the under-25-riding-the-tropical-service-industry-circuit-after-college crowd, you should be fine. That is to say, you'll have options. If you're a professional in your 30s or older, you're going to have a tough row to hoe in STX vis-a-vis the single life. Most people here in that age/income/maturity bracket are married or coupled off already.

I have some wonderful friends here, none of them single.

But then, I didn't move here for the social scene.

Best of luck to you, whatever you decide.

VB

If it helps, I moved to St. Thomas at age 22, young and VERY single. I was not in the crowd that VB mentioned (had to be up to go to work too early to really hang with them anyway), but sandwiched in that "young and should be partying, but have a respectable job that I would like to keep" category....

I managed to meet my husband and get married.

We don't live there right now, but will again soon....if you don't mind me asking, how old are you? I do have some single friends, but they are all older than me (I am 32).

I had a 20-something professional friend on STX who was MISERABLE! He escaped to ST Thomas as often as possible and eventually returned to the states because the singles scene was, in his words, impossible.
Something to think about.

I see posts from 10 years ago about the single life in STX.

What is it like now? Update please.

While my move to STX is going to be the experience/challenge of a lifetime I don't want to be "uncoupled" forever 😮

Millenial here. Onika's post is pretty accurate. There's the very incestuous service industry crowd, and not much else. A friend recently joked that people don't date, they just "have turns" with each other. Everyones sleeps with everyone, and it becomes awkward after a while. If you're a young professional, it's exceedingly difficult, as service industry folks typically won't be who you want to date/settle down with. Indeed, there's more to life than alcohol, tattoos, etc.

The dating scene is much better on STT than STX (STX is still a ghost town since Hovensa closed). It is also very hard to meet people as a young person (I guess older folks have rotary, and similar organizations to socialize at). Young folks have very little outside of drinking events to meet people. Unlike the states, where you have the Junior League and other organizations (political, etc), there is little going on here, and the organizations that do exist are filled with old folks.

...I guess older folks have rotary, and similar organizations to socialize at). Young folks have very little outside of drinking events to meet people. Unlike the states, where you have the Junior League and other organizations (political, etc), there is little going on here, and the organizations that do exist are filled with old folks.

Lord, send help. Monogram, I feel like you want everyone over 50 to become Soylent Green. Young people can join Rotary and other organizations. Many times they aren't quite to the point in their life when they realize how lucky they are and want to share their good fortune and talent with others. I'll bet there are many groups on St. Croix that would have a young pup like you as a member. Stop with the ageism, will ya?!

i know young people who find lasting love on this island-not just hook ups.

...I guess older folks have rotary, and similar organizations to socialize at). Young folks have very little outside of drinking events to meet people. Unlike the states, where you have the Junior League and other organizations (political, etc), there is little going on here, and the organizations that do exist are filled with old folks.

Lord, send help. Monogram, I feel like you want everyone over 50 to become Soylent Green. Young people can join Rotary and other organizations. Many times they aren't quite to the point in their life when they realize how lucky they are and want to share their good fortune and talent with others. I'll bet there are many groups on St. Croix that would have a young pup like you as a member. Stop with the ageism, will ya?!

I'm sorry! I meant it as a compliment (that older folks have organizations that bring them together which is not the case for the young folks who don't want to get hammered every night).

Hope this helps

Just moved to STX as a 32 year old single professional and have been on island 3 weeks. Was very fortunate to meet some really great people (some at bars, some just walking around) and can tell you the majority of them are in relationships, alot seem to have moved with someone.

I consider to myself to be more on the social side and hang out with people between 24 and 40 - i like listening to music going to bars hanging out later than i probably should on week days - and there is a good crowd for that. HOWEVER it does seem like if you are not into dating/hanging out with people that are in the service industry there aren't many options. I have gone out with some people from Barry University (medical field) who are a little older and more low key but options in my short time on island do seem limited. And even the one girl I did meet who I would consider dating graduates and is leaving in December so that would last 5 months tops.

There seems to be a fairly good chance of just hooking up and going home with someone but as mentioned before I run into the same people no matter what part of the island I'm on - everyone knows about the same parties and what spots are good what nights so that might not be the most sustainable option.

I will say that everyone is interested to get to know any new person who shows up so that can be nice =) And everyone is super nice and friendly and will do their best to invite you out and introduce you to as many of their friends as possible.

When I came down here i wasn't looking for anything serious so right now its not a concern to me -- i dont' mind being the fifth wheel and hanging out with my more established couple friends. Even when it does get busies in the winter those people will jsut be more service industry people who aren't here long term.

In short it has been really easy to meet friends, just not people to date.

Hope this helps

Just moved to STX as a 32 year old single professional and have been on island 3 weeks. Was very fortunate to meet some really great people (some at bars, some just walking around) and can tell you the majority of them are in relationships, alot seem to have moved with someone ... HOWEVER it does seem like if you are not into dating/hanging out with people that are in the service industry there aren't many options.

Yeah that's about right. Very perceptive for someone who has only been here for three weeks! Welcome!

great feedback!

Curiosity about the single life is only a small piece of the pie here. I am looking for a great adventure, but a lasting one too.

I'm pretty content flying solo or surrounding by friends so none of this scares me away.

I am hearing alot about service industry people in these single life forums. I refer to these people as "nightwalkers". I am very much a day time person. I want to be up with the sun. Packing my day with things to do. While I love to be around these people, because they are always a good time, I really just want to make there are some other options.

great feedback!

I am hearing alot about service industry people in these single life forums. I refer to these people as "nightwalkers". I am very much a day time person. I want to be up with the sun. Packing my day with things to do. While I love to be around these people, because they are always a good time, I really just want to make there are some other options.

Agreed. 🙁

I know quite a few people who moved here and found love-not service people either. it can and does happen.

Always keep your ears and eyes open. Possibilities are there. The population is small, and smaller yet for dating considering age brackets (STX=42K people, 25% over 65, 25% under 18. That leaves 21K 18-65, or 11K per gender. Many of those are married.). You can do the math.

Love does happen. Mostly use time to explore who you are and enjoy life, and understand what it means to you to be single and what you want to do.

Fun? Yeah, there's loads of that. Join in the local kick-ball leagues, or ultimate frisbee. Scuba, etc.

Bars? loads of those.

Adventure? There's a lot to see and experience on this island and many others nearby.

Want to be in a relationship? Well, you'll have time to reflect on why that's important and what you seek (and do not seek).

Consider this the opening chapters in your biography. Inspire your future generations!

Is this thread really 11 years old or is the site having another cramp?

REALLY IS

So why was it resurrected?

Because someone hat was interested did a search of topics, found there was one, read the old ones and had questions on the same topic.