Questions about relocating

To answerer those of you who asked where we got the idea. My mother visited St Thomas and St. Croix 2 years and has not stopped talking about it since. She first gave us the idea when she thought about moving herself. I do not know if she is going to move or not honestly she cannot make up her mind. My youngest brother was killed last year in a car accident at the age of 22. It nearly destroyed us all. My mother has buried four of her children now. It gave us all a wake up call and made us all realize how short life is and that you cannot waste any time. We are actually hoping to talk her into coming with us when we move. I have to admit I am excited about breaking away and following our own path , but like I idea of doing that and reconnecting a little with my mother is appealing. To all of you who are so unhappy with your own lives you have nothing better to do with you time than criticize me, get a life. Beach bum I am sorry that you feel that you are able to make judgments on me when you haven't even read the entire thread. I have stated no less than 10 times that I welcome all types of advice as long as it is well intentioned. I agree that I need to hear negatives but not to be attacked because I still choose to come down even though three or four people say that I am not good enough or prepared enough. The truth is most of you know nothing about me. You choose to judge my worthiness by two statements. The fact that I am planning this move 16 months in advance and plan on bringing $10,000 in cash with me has not made me worthy of your approval. The fact that I have skills and am willing to work for what I want does not seem to matter to you. So far I have been accused of being unprepared, irresponsible, unintelligent, uneducated, a bad mother, monkey, a dolt and even been told I have issues. Someone even accused me basically being stuck up my implying that i think I am better than bartenders on the islands because I said I am skilled. You are right with all the criticism I have gotten I should have lied and said I have no skills.

STT resident I am sorry that you are frustrated that I choose not to listen to to, but the Truth is that I do not owe you an explanation. I am prepared to make my own decision.. The fact is that if everyone had to pass your test of approval very few people would ever make the move. I also want to say that I take offense stt resident that you are now attacking the people who have been supportive to me by saying that they are not qualified to have an opinion. I was under the impression that some of the people who have offered support also live on the island and have for some time.

I am now asking from now on to be left in peace. If I post bout schools talk about schools, if I post about jobs then post about jobs. I will do the same for you. Let all of this hostility go. My mind is made up and i have taken a lot of advice I have received. But I am still entitled to my own opinion.

Well said, April (from someone who has lived down here for 25 years). I also remember you had said you wanted to hear not just the positive. The negative doesn't have to be delivered with an attack. It's your decision & as you have said, you have a back-up plan & an exit strategy.

Wow, way too much drama. Sometimes we have to follow our instinct and intuition. Life should be way easier then all of this.

Jeez April,
Having read your posts over the last few weeks, you seem to be waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay too highly strung for island life...

I have become more high strung since being pregnant (or at least that is what my husband says) lol. I am trying to tone it down a bit.

April, honey quit worrying about what all these people have to say. You do not have to explain yourself. You are giving everyone way to much information and leaving yourself open to attack for people who have nothing better to do with their time. Have a good night.
Tam

Well said, Tam. You won't find near the rudeness in real life here as you've experienced on this thread. And I might add, it's not giving a reality check by telling the negatives, it's the way it's delivered.

Wow, April. Actually, you came off as really mellow. Even I can come off as highly strung over the internet, and I've been accused of being "too nonchalant." 🙂 Congrats on your popularity! No worries. Goos-frah-bah.