Ex-husband beats me to it...

SUX To Be You !!!!!!!

Nice for daughter, tho.

It sounds as though just you and your daughter are planning a move and you're not part of the vacation so you can still do your PMV with her, no? If she's part of the decision making process then she'll see the island from both perspectives which isn't a bad thing.

that is a seperate matter from your possible move. just wondering though-do the courts and father agree to your move?

How old is your daughter?

I agree with speedy, you need to check your divorce papers, but then again your ex seems to be the sort that would tell you or better yet flaunt it in your face that you can't make the move. I just hope if this is the case, you come to realize this BEFORE you spend any money.

I don't know your ex, so I can't speak on why he decided to go to St. Thomas for Spring Break and take your daughter with him, I would like to think he felt he was doing you a favor by giving her a heads up before the PMV. I would like to think good of people rather than bad, I hope this is the reason and not just to be mean or hateful. If it were me, I would want to see where my ex-wife was hauling our daughter off to that would be 1000 miles away from me and the only way there is by plane or boat, especially after researching and seeing the crime rate and reading some of these forums.

mike

How old is your daughter?

She said in an earlier post she's 15.

Yeah, Shangirl...just make sure there's nothing is your custody agreement that prohibits you from taking her beyond a certain distance for reasons other than vacation.

Also, I may be a newcomer and certainly don't have the lowdown on the schools here, but it might behoove her to come and experience STT beyond resort life - visit schools, check out activities, maybe even let her be part of the process of finding a place to live. I first visited STT when I was 15 and was dazzled and never wanted to leave, but of course I was staying in a resort. I think actually living here and dealing with day-to-day stuff is going to be quite a different experience.

I don't think people are trying to discourage you, just so you know. I DO think "informed decision" is the name of the game! good luck!

Sounds like a nice vacation for her

and just remember, if you move this far away from her dad you will most likely get stuck paying for all travel costs for her visits with dad which could be all school breaks. that means you might not get your child during the holidays

I'm sure the op is aware of the ramifications of moving to the VI with her daughter as it pertains to her relationship with her ex.

Maybe she can pick up some local info to bring home -- Daily News, some real estate books, Island Trader, local phone book, good maps, grocery flyers etc. - or even visit a school or 2 to get some idea of the possibilities for her.

I'm sure the op is aware of the ramifications of moving to the VI with her daughter as it pertains to her relationship with her ex.

Really. This was beginning to look like a Dear Abby column!

Maybe she can pick up some local info to bring home -- Daily News, some real estate books, Island Trader, local phone book, good maps, grocery flyers etc. - or even visit a school or 2 to get some idea of the possibilities for her.

All of that info is also online (except visiting a school, of course!)

It's my fault this is looking like a Dear Abby column...I presented it that way. Honestly, I'm glad she is going, he is just a lot better off than I am financially and I don't want her to get the impression that our life on the island would be just like that. She is smart and old enough for me to talk to so I was just frustrated honestly. Knee jerk reaction.

On the divorce stuff. He travels for work about 90% of the time so spends very little time at home. We have both talked about moving before because he travels so much, there would be little difference in the time he sees her. He would just travel to see her or pay for her to come here. He has more frequent flyer miles than I have hairs on my head. Our typical arrangement involves him paying for most things and me doing most things (day to day everything) because he is not around to do them. He's a great dad when he is here and tries to be from afar, he's just a jet setting business-man with no real reason to require her to stay somewhere he rarely is.

No problem.
Everyone needs to vent once in awhile.

Well which one of us is dear Abby, my vote goes to OT because she shoots from the hip.

mike

Just curious, your story sounds familiar...did we meet in Frederiksted at the Lost Dog Pub this past July? From Utah?

The poster has been to STT once on a cruise ship and lives in Florida so likely not! 😀

No Captain Malibu....Just an old tired story I guess 😉 Great memory OT.

I have a very retentive memory except when it comes to remembering what I was looking for when I opened the cupboard ... 😀